Saturday, August 13, 2011

Is It Normal to Feel....

Is it normal to feel: a twinge of envy everytime I hear of a blogger / facebook friend / real life friend / cousin who is pregnant? I am 110% confident I want to be able to enjoy Blaine and only Blaine for SEVERAL MORE YEARS without adding a new baby to the mix. So why the feeling?

Is it normal to feel: SO FRICKIN HOT ALL THE TIME? I feel like I'm in menopause. Darn hormones. Or is it the hormones? Any other mothers always feeling hotter than everyone else in the room?

Is it normal to feel: like I have a closer relationship with my child than I've ever had with my husband over the last 10 years? I see one of them 24 / 7 and the other one every 2 weeks. Ok maybe that's exaggerating a bit but it sure feels that way. I really do think I'll know Blaine as a person way better than I'll ever know Nick and that makes me sad. Am I the only mom who feels this way?

Is it normal to feel: ABSOLUTE ANXIETY / DREAD WHEN THINKING OF RETURNING TO WORK? Even though that is more than 1 year away?


Anna & Kirby said...

Oh no Christy... I'm sorry you're feeling like this lately. I wish I could say something to help you through it.

One thought on the first one... maybe you DO want another child sooner than you thought you did. ;) Just a thought!

Elizabeth said...

Oh my goodness, I could have written this post myself! I hope it's normal because I feel the exact same way!

I feel that twinge of jealousy too everytime I hear about a baby. Logically, I know now is not the right time to add another and would be completely unfair to Grayson, but emotionally, I want another now.

Ugh- the HEAT. Good grief, will it ever be below 100 degrees again?!

I know what you mean about the husband love/closeness, and I feel sad too. Maybe it will be different when the kid(s) get older?

I can't imagine having to go back to work full time. I am working again part time and it took me a few days to get over the anxiety about leaving G. It's good now (for both of us), but full time is a whole different story.

Loved this post!

Stacy said...

You are so in my head right now. I need a few years of sleep under my belt before I even consider adding a new baby to the family, yet I still feel that twinge when I hear that someone is pregnant. So weird. And so annoying. And as far as the husband sad, and so frustrating. I completely know what you mean. J and I spend so much time together and I know him inside and out and sometimes I feel like my husband is just "that other person living in our house." It's only temporary, right?

Mom on the Run said...

I am always hot and never sweated this much before having the baby. I have no idea why.

I never realized how much one human being can change your whole world. I am right there with you mama.

Kara said...

I am always hot now too. The baby did something to me!

I'm with you on jealousy over pregnancy, even though I know now isn't the right time for me.

Abby said...

I love this blog! Thanks for saying everything a lot of us are feeling too!

Tara said...

I think I could have written this post myself. Totally understand how you are feeling.

Janelle said...

I say have another baby now - you'll get to stay home from longer, they will be close in age and thus be able to lean on one another growing up, and you'll have an excuse for being so hot!

Then again, life turns to mayhem with two so close together, and with your husband not around all that much...maybe waiting isn’t such a bad idea... :)

I think most mothers feel like we know our kids, if not “better than,” at least “differently” than our husbands. Only natural – we (hopefully, at least not at first!) aren’t cleaning up our husband’s poop or making decisions for them about what they will eat/drink/do for every waking moment of the day. All that said…it sounds like you need a vacation – without Blaine! Maybe just a night somewhere? Reconnect with Nick and remember what it is like to NOT have to worry about the needs of another person 24/7! I know I need those baby-free nights every now and then!

Kat said...

I feel the same way, too - except I'm not hot all the time!

But seriously, my baby's only 5 mo and some days I wish I was having another. And I know I've never spent this much uninterrupted time with my husband, or ever had to pay as much attention to every one of his needs and wants. So I think it IS normal to feel closer to the child.

Diana @ frontyardfoodie said...

Oh my dear IS normal.

Well, if it isn't normal, than I am anything but normal.

Avery isn't even quite one and I'm already craving another baby even though when I'm logical about it I know that I'm cool with having only one (we ARE planning on more though, but my hormones make me want them now now now haha).

The work thing? Yeah, I called it quits for good because of that exact same reason....pure and unadulterated terror of leaving my child with anyone else.

I'm just catching up on some posts and noticing a theme of hubby irritation so maybe there's something underlying there but all I have to say is, remember that he workin' for the big bucks so you can spend this time with the little buddy! Hopefully things aren't too tense in that arena:)